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Q: How do I know if my child should take a break from competitions? A: Watch for emotional and behavioural changes — dreading practice they once enjoyed, increased anxiety around competition dates, or losing interest in the subject itself. These are signals that the pressure has outweighed the benefit.
TL;DR Competitions can develop valuable skills, but they are not worth your child's wellbeing. If your child shows persistent signs of stress, avoidance, or declining interest in the subject — not just the competition — it is time to pause. A break is not quitting; it is protecting your child's long-term relationship with learning. This guide covers the specific warning signs to watch for, what to do when you see them, and how to find enrichment alternatives that keep curiosity alive without the pressure.
Why This Matters in Singapore
Singapore students face unusually high academic anxiety. OECD data from the 2022 PISA study found that 86% of Singapore students worry about poor grades, compared with 66% across OECD countries. Similarly, 76% feel anxious about tests even when well-prepared, against a global average of 55%.
In this environment, adding competition pressure on top of an already demanding school system can tip a child from productive challenge into genuine distress. The difficulty is that the signs are not always obvious — especially when a child has internalised the expectation that they should keep going.
Warning Signs to Watch For
These are specific, observable behaviours that suggest competition participation has shifted from beneficial to harmful. No single sign in isolation is cause for alarm, but a pattern of several should prompt a serious conversation.
1. Dreading practice sessions they used to enjoy
This is the clearest early signal. A child who once looked forward to working through tricky problems but now stalls, finds excuses, or needs to be forced to sit down has lost intrinsic motivation. The activity has become a chore rather than a challenge.
2. Crying or anger before or after competitions
Some pre-competition nerves are normal. Persistent emotional distress — crying the night before, meltdowns after results, or explosive frustration during practice — is not. Pay particular attention if the emotional intensity is increasing over time rather than decreasing with experience.
3. Grades dropping in other subjects
If your child's school performance is declining in subjects outside the competition area, competition preparation may be consuming too much cognitive and emotional bandwidth. This is especially concerning when the child was previously performing well across subjects.
4. Sleep disruption around competition dates
Difficulty falling asleep, nightmares, or waking up early with anxiety in the days surrounding a competition suggests the stress has become physiological. Children should not be losing sleep over an enrichment activity.
Statements like "Everyone else is better than me" or fixating on classmates' results rather than their own progress indicate that the competition environment is eroding rather than building confidence. Healthy competition involves measuring yourself against yourself; harmful competition becomes an identity threat.
6. Saying "I'm stupid" or "I'll never be good enough"
Self-deprecating language tied to competition performance is a serious warning sign. When a child's self-worth becomes entangled with their competition results, a bad score does not just feel disappointing — it feels like proof that they are inadequate. This kind of thinking can generalise beyond competitions into their broader academic and personal identity.
7. Physical symptoms before practice or competitions
Stomachaches, headaches, nausea, or other physical complaints that appear consistently before competition-related activities — and resolve once the activity is cancelled or postponed — are the body's stress response. These are not "excuses"; they are real symptoms with a psychological trigger.
8. Loss of interest in the subject itself
This is the most concerning sign and the one educators worry about most. When a child who once loved maths, science, or coding begins to dislike the subject — not just the competition format — the competition has done the opposite of its intended purpose. As one tutor resource notes, repeated competition participation can cause students to lose interest in the subject entirely.
9. Resistance to all challenge, not just competition
If your child begins avoiding hard problems even outside competition context — refusing to attempt bonus questions at school, choosing the easiest option whenever possible — competition stress may have created a generalised fear of failure.
10. Parents are more invested than the child
This one requires honest self-reflection. If you find yourself more anxious about results, more disappointed by outcomes, or more motivated to continue than your child is, the competition has become your project more than theirs.
Healthy Challenge vs Harmful Pressure
Not all discomfort is bad. Growth requires stretch, and children benefit from learning that effort can move them past initial frustration. The distinction lies in the trajectory and the child's overall wellbeing.
Healthy challenge looks like:
Frustration during a problem that gives way to satisfaction when solved
Nervousness before a competition that settles once it begins
Disappointment at a result that motivates wanting to try again
Willingness to engage with harder material over time
Maintaining interest in the subject outside competition context
Harmful pressure looks like:
Frustration that does not resolve and leads to avoidance
Anxiety that persists well beyond competition day
Disappointment that leads to withdrawal or self-blame
Decreasing willingness to engage with any challenging material
Loss of interest in the subject itself
The mathematician Terence Tao — himself a former competition medallist — has noted that competitions should not be viewed as ends in themselves. They are one of many ways to develop mathematical ability, and they are not the right fit for every student at every stage.
What to Do if You See These Signs
Step 1: Pause — not punish
Remove competition-related pressure immediately. This is not a consequence for poor performance; it is a protective measure. Cancel upcoming registrations if needed. Your child needs to feel that their wellbeing matters more than any result.
Step 2: Talk — and listen more than you speak
Ask open-ended questions: "How do you feel about competitions right now?" or "What part of this do you enjoy, and what part do you not?" Resist the urge to counter their feelings with reasons they should continue. If your child says they want to stop, believe them.
Step 3: Reassess your goals honestly
Ask yourself what you were hoping competitions would achieve. If the answer is DSA portfolio strength, recognise that a burned-out child with medals performs worse in DSA interviews than an engaged child who pursued other interests. If the answer is skill development, recognise that there are many paths to the same skills.
Step 4: Pivot to lower-pressure enrichment
Do not leave a vacuum. Replace competition preparation with activities that preserve intellectual engagement without the ranking and comparison. See the section below on alternative enrichment paths.
Step 5: Seek professional support if needed
If your child is showing persistent anxiety, depression symptoms, or significant behavioural changes beyond what is described here, consult a school counsellor or child psychologist. Competition stress can be a trigger for deeper issues that benefit from professional support. This guide is not a substitute for professional advice.
When to Return to Competitions
A break can last weeks, months, or permanently — there is no correct timeline. The right time to revisit competitions is when your child shows genuine renewed interest, not when you feel enough time has passed.
Signs of genuine renewed interest:
Your child asks about competitions without prompting
They voluntarily seek out challenging problems again
They express curiosity about a specific competition or topic
Their general attitude toward the subject has recovered
They can talk about past competition experiences without distress
Signs of parent-driven resumption (avoid these):
"It has been three months, surely they are ready now"
Peers returning to competitions triggering comparison
Feeling that the break has "wasted" prior investment
Worrying that DSA chances are slipping away
One reflection from a former olympiad participant captures this well: the pride at winning faded quickly, and the lasting regret was about not thinking critically about the underlying motivations for competing. Let your child develop those motivations organically rather than inheriting yours.
Alternative Enrichment Paths
Competitions are one enrichment format, not the only one. These alternatives develop overlapping skills — problem-solving, persistence, creativity, collaboration — without the ranking pressure.
Project-based learning
Let your child choose a question they want to answer and work through it over weeks. "Why do some paper planes fly further?" or "Can I build a website that tracks bus arrival times?" These projects develop research skills, iterative problem-solving, and intrinsic motivation.
Creative coding and maker spaces
Platforms like Scratch, micro:bit projects, or Arduino kits let children build things that work. The feedback loop is immediate (does it run or not?) and the success criteria are personal (does it do what I wanted?) rather than comparative.
Recreational maths and science
Martin Gardner's puzzle books, Numberphile videos, science experiment kits — these keep curiosity alive without performance pressure. The goal is to maintain your child's relationship with the subject during the break.
Collaborative challenges
Team-based activities like Science Olympiad (which emphasises collaboration) or hackathons where the goal is building rather than ranking can preserve the excitement of working on hard problems without the individual pressure of traditional competitions.
Reading and exploration
Sometimes the best enrichment is unstructured. A child who reads widely, asks questions, and follows their own curiosity is developing exactly the intellectual habits that matter for long-term academic success.
Build Strong Foundations
Whether your child returns to competitions or not, strong subject foundations matter for school, for IP readiness, and for genuine understanding. Eclat Institute does not offer competition-specific tuition, but our programmes develop the depth and reasoning habits that serve students in any context:
IP Maths Tuition — for students in or heading toward the IP track
Is it normal for my child not to enjoy competitions?
Yes, completely normal. Competitions are a specific format — timed, individual, high-stakes — that does not suit every learning style or personality. Many children who go on to excel in STEM subjects at university level never enjoyed or participated in competitions. Enjoyment of a subject and enjoyment of competing in that subject are different things.
Should I force my child to continue?
No. Forcing a reluctant child to continue competing rarely produces the outcomes parents hope for. It is more likely to create a negative association with the subject, damage your relationship with your child around learning, and produce worse competition results (because a stressed child performs below their ability). Stepping back is not giving up — it is making a decision based on your child's actual experience rather than your expectations.
Will taking a break hurt their DSA chances?
It depends on timing and what replaces the competitions. A child who stops competing in P3 and returns in P5 with renewed energy can still build a strong DSA portfolio. A child who stops but channels that time into a meaningful project or alternative achievement may have an equally compelling portfolio. DSA panels value passion and depth — a burned-out child with medals is less convincing than an engaged child who pursued something they genuinely cared about. See How Math Olympiad Awards Boost DSA Applications for perspective on what DSA panels actually look for.
How long should a competition break last?
There is no fixed timeline. Some children need a few weeks to reset; others need a year or more. The break should last until the child shows genuine, unprompted interest in returning — not until the parent feels enough time has passed. Rushing the return risks repeating the same cycle.
What if their school expects them to compete?
Some schools nominate students for competitions like NMOS or select them for school teams. If your child is struggling, speak with their teacher or head of department. Explain the situation honestly. Most educators will understand and support a temporary withdrawal. Your child's wellbeing takes priority over school expectations, and a good school will recognise that.
Are there less stressful competitions?
Yes. Competitions vary significantly in intensity. SASMO and SMKC are relatively low-pressure — MCQ format, broad participation, generous award thresholds. Collaborative formats like Science Olympiad or Bebras (Bebras Challenge) emphasise thinking over ranking. If your child wants to ease back in, these are good starting points.
How do I know if the problem is the competition or something deeper?
If the anxiety, avoidance, or distress extends well beyond competition context — affecting school, friendships, sleep, or daily mood — the competition may be a trigger rather than the root cause. In that case, professional support from a school counsellor or child psychologist is appropriate. Competition stress can surface pre-existing anxiety that benefits from proper attention.
My child says they want to quit everything — is that a red flag?
It can be. If a child who was previously engaged across multiple activities suddenly wants to withdraw from all of them, it is worth exploring whether this reflects genuine burnout, a response to a specific stressor, or something that needs professional attention. Talk to them, listen carefully, and do not dismiss the feeling. If it persists, consult their school counsellor.
